What a mother wants most for a Mother’s Day gift may not be a card and flowers.
The gifts we give from the heart…
The gifts that require personal effort, sacrifice and commitment…
The gifts we can’t buy from Hallmark or at the local florist…
These are the gifts that mean the most.
These gifts are priceless.
If you’re a Dad reading this, this is for you. If you know a dad, share it with him.
Every Dad can give these gifts, but it takes commitment.
It takes a commitment to love.
Every Dad can do these things, but it requires action.
It takes an action of his will to reach out for Divine power that will transform him from an ordinary man into a hero.
Only then can a husband fulfill the love he’s promised to his wife–the mother of his child or children.
7 Mother’s Day Gifts
These 7 Mother’s Day gifts from Dad to Mom are challenges for me as much as they are for any Dad reading this. These are things a father can do every day to bring happiness to Mom’s life.
1. Draw near to Jesus.
As a husband and a father, nothing else matters more than this. Plug into the life-changing power of Christ.
Without this power, your faults and failures will undermine every effort you make to do the right thing for your wife and your child or children.
Devote yourself to reading your Bible every day. Pray that God will teach you–and transform you–through His Word. Learn how to follow in the footsteps of Jesus. Surrender yourself to following where Jesus leads.
As you draw nearer to Jesus, you’ll draw nearer to your wife and your child or children.
2. Lavish love on your children’s mother.
You can’t love your wife too much, if you love the way Jesus loves.
The Bible says to husbands, “Love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it,” (Ephesians 5:25).
Let each child of yours see you hugging, kissing and holding hands with their mother. Let them hear you speak kind words to her, and see how you treat her with respect. Above all, let them see you act unselfishly, as you choose to spend time pursuing her interests at the expense of your own.
3. Provide for your family, but don’t bring your job home.
A father’s responsibilities include providing shelter, food, and clothing for his family.
If you’re blessed with a well-paying job, you may provide more than these basic needs.
If you’re out of a job, search for one. Take odd jobs when you can. Bring in some income, even though the job may not be what you’ve trained for. Don’t put the burden of bringing home the bread on your wife, unless your health prevents you from working.
Place boundaries between work and the home, when your job just allows you to get by, or provides more than you need. The demands of the job may sometimes require you to put in extra hours, travel, or be away for weeks and months at a time. But when the work day is over, be home with your family–in body and mind.
Find a way to leave the stress and demands of work at the workplace. Devote energy and attention to your family when you’re home.
Are you out of work and searching for a job, or working extra jobs? Put boundaries around the amount of time and energy you devote to your hunt for work. Carve out time to spend with your family.
4. Teach your children to respect their mother.
First, don’t expect your child to respect their mother unless they see it from you first. Then, when you hear and see your child disrespect her, gently but firmly nip it in the bud. Explain how, then show them how to honor their Mom.
5. Take the lead in parenting.
Here’s one I want to be better at. It’s easy for fathers to defer parenting responsibilities to the mother, especially if mom’s work is in the home. But, children are designed to grow best with the gentle and firm guidance of a father to teach them how to live right.
Act with authority, but do it with kindness and sympathy. Don’t be critical and fault-finding. Lead with grace and mercy. Teach your child from the Bible, and remember to require of yourself the same things you expect from them.
6. Cultivate friendship with each child.
Spend time with them in work and play.
After a full day at work, I find myself needing to put extra effort into this one.
Some fathers sit back in their recliner and issue commands to their wife and children–as if father is the captain of a ship and the family are his crew.
Stand alongside each child and their mother, getting your hands dirty with household chores. When the work is done, call the family together for a fun game that everyone can enjoy.
Give Mom the evening off from time to time. Prepare dinner with the kids and give Mom an evening to herself. Run off with your child or children to the playground, or to buy mom a special gift.
7. Pray for and with your family.
Don’t leave the spiritual care of your child to their mother alone.
Fathers make a huge impact on their child’s perceptions of God the Father. As you draw near to Jesus, demonstrate spiritual leadership in your home.
Pray for each child and their mother daily. Block out time each day to bring your family together. Pray for each other and for the needs of people outside your family circle.
Which of these do you want to do more of? What would you add to this list? Please share your thoughts below.