7 Ways to Thrive When You Feel Abandoned by God8 min read
Perhaps you’ve prayed for months. Maybe you’ve prayed for years. You hear nothing. People tell you to pray more.
But you feel abandoned by God.
You’ve met them. You’ve read their books. You’ve heard the speak. The saints who say, “Trust in God’s promises.”
They felt abandoned by God, but hung on. They walked through the valleys of trial and tribulation, depression and fear. They kept their flame burning. God walked them out the other side. Now they stand on mountain tops–shining bright and thriving.
But now you’re on your knees every day, praying. Asking…
God, where are you.
Your light is dimming. The next gust of wind or turbulent wave threatens to put it out.
How Can You Trust God When You Can’t See Him?
I tell myself, If I could see God standing at my side, it would be easier to trust Him.
If God would just send an angel to reassure me, I’d be stronger.
But then, I have to ask myself:
- Am I any better than Adam and Eve, who walked with God in Eden, but doubted His promises?
- What about Abraham and Sarah? They welcomed angels into their home, who destroyed the evil cities of Sodom and Gomorrah. Then Abraham and Sarah lied because they feared Pharaoh.
- Am I any better than Elijah? He ran for his life, afraid Jezebel would kill him. Only hours earlier, God sent fire from heaven to consume Elijah’s water-drenched sacrifice, and the stones it sat on. God also sent rain in answer to Elijah’s prayer. After all that, Elijah felt discouraged and afraid. He asked God to let him die.
- Am I any better than Peter, James and John? After three and a half years walking with Jesus, seeing amazing miracles, His closest disciples ran and hid when trouble came.
Those Who Saw God the Least Trusted the Most
There are those who trusted God when evil seemed to have the advantage. They trusted before any direct encounter with God or His angels.
If I could only have faith like these:
- Joseph endured betrayal by his brothers, slavery and prison. But he remained faithful to God.
- Daniel had been brought to Babylon a captive. Under Nebuchadnezzar’s orders, he’d been castrated with a knife. Humiliated, he was forced to serve in the king’s government. After all that, Daniel asked to hear King Nebuchadnezzar’s dream. He trusted God would interpret the king’s dream, and save his life.
- Esther was an orphan. She’d been forced into King Xerxes’ harem. He made her his queen. The queen before her was banished for disrespecting the king. But Esther approached the king with boldness. She put her life on the line when her people were condemned do death, believing God had called her for such a time as this.
Joseph became a ruled at the Pharaoh’s right hand. Daniel became a royal official in the government of at least four kings. Esther prevailed for her people and continued to rule over Persia.
These are a few of the faithful. They held on when it seemed God had abandoned them. They walked through the dark, but their lights kept glowing.
You and I each have a story. Each story includes times of disappointment, discouragement, depression and fear–these are different for each of us. But I know what it’s like to have God lead you to what seems like a dead end. I’ve suffered from loneliness and broken relationships. I’ve experienced poverty. I’ve struggled with poor health.
I’ve tried trusting in God’s promises. At times I’ve wondered if the promises are true.
There are times when my light threatened to go out, because I doubted God’s faithfulness.
How to Shine in the Darkness of Discouragement and Fear
I’ve learned that the problem isn’t God’s faithfulness. The problem comes from failing to understand that many of God’s promises include a part for me to play.
Joseph, Daniel and Esther didn’t settle for being background characters in God’s story. They saw themselves in leading roles.
To experience the full power of God’s promises we need to understand our part and play it. We need to get off the sidelines, and into the game. We need to get out of the audience and onto the stage.
Joseph, Daniel and Esther overcame difficult circumstances and achieved great things by cooperating with God.
They refused to be passive.
They were faithful to what God called them to do. They remained faithful, no matter how dark their world became.
They refused to lose heart. They kept their lamps burning. Instead of focusing on the darkness they kept their eyes on the light.
They pushed disappointment, discouragement and fear aside, trusting that God had a plan and that they had a part In it.
They might have felt alone at times, but God never left them.
I’ve learned that when I feel abandoned by God, it’s a good time to revisit His promises and make sure I’m playing my part.
In the stories of those who didn’t let their flame go out when the world around them grew dark, there are 7 ways they kept their light shining.
These are 7 things God asks of us. When we do our part God fulfills His promises so we can shine in the darkness and thrive in the light of God’s power.
1. Stop Pointing Your Finger
Blaming our problems on someone else might make us feel better. But it does nothing to make our lives better. The Bible teaches us to not complain about each other and to not point fingers. In return for stopping these things, God promises to satisfy our needs (Isaiah 58:9-11; James 5:9)
2. Confess Your Sins to God
The Bible teaches us that God won’t hear us if we hold on to sin (Psalm 66:18). If you are clinging to a known sin, ask God to make you willing to let go of it. God gives us the desire and the power to overcome sin (Romans 8).
3. Focus on the Good
Have you ever cut or scraped yourself and not noticed the pain until minutes later, when you saw the wound? When hard times hit us, it’s easy to focus on the bad stuff that’s happening to us, and around us. But doing what’s easy only adds to our pain. The Bible teaches that if we focus our attention on what is good, the God of peace is with us (Philippians 4:8-9).
4. Remember Your Purpose
God calls us to a special purpose. We’re called to be lights in the darkness (Matthew 5:16). We’re in the middle of a great conflict between Christ and Satan. The devil’s dark forces are relentless, looking for every opportunity to put out your light. But this life isn’t all there is. Wounded soldiers don’t surrender to an enemy that takes no prisoners–we fight to the death, because Jesus conquered death (Ephesians 6:10-20).
5. Cultivate Relationships
There are two kinds of relationships that help us thrive in difficult times. One kind is where we bring encouraging words and help to others who are struggling. The other kind is where we surround ourselves with at least one or two people who give us encouraging words and help when we need it. A church provides opportunities for both kinds of relationships (Ecclesiastes 4:9-22; 1 Thessalonians 5:11; Hebrews 10:25).
6. Set Goals
Set up a list of tasks to work on each day. Ask God to guide you in this. Start with tasks that help you achieve your God-given purpose. Then add tasks designed to keep you in good health and strengthen your mind and your relationships. Write them down (James 4:13-15).
7. Get Busy
Get to work on your tasks and check items off in your list as you complete them each day. Savor each accomplishment. Make note of the tasks you don’t complete. Evaluate whether they’re necessary. Ask God to guide you as you choose what to keep and remove your task list (Proverbs 3:5-6).
The Greater the Darkness the Brighter the Light
Stripped naked and nailed to a cross, a crown of thorns piercing the skin on His forehead, Jesus fought for each breath. In God’s story, Jesus chose the role of the hero who dies to save the lives of the rest of us.
In His darkest hour, Jesus felt abandoned by God. He cried, “My God, My God! Why have You forsaken Me?” But God never left Jesus. And Jesus remained faithful.
In His darkest hour, the light of Jesus shone the brightest. His light penetrated the clouds over Golgotha, and stretched across the universe from the beginning to the end of time.
Jesus knows what it’s like to feel alone. He shows us how to keep our flame bright in dark times.
Looking at the list above, I see things I’ve done that kept me faithful in dark times. I also know there are things I can do better on each of these items to fuel my flame.
Are there things on this list, or not on this list that kept your light shining in dark times? If so, leave a comment below.