It’s Not Always Your Fault When Your Spouse Gets Upset

Sometimes we step into sensitive areas by mistake and our spouse gets upset. We call it “touching a raw nerve” or “pushing a button.” Many marriage counselors refer to it as a “regrettable incident.” Regrettable incidents occur when an otherwise benign action by one spouse triggers a misfire of a negative emotional reaction from the other. […]

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5 Communication Mistakes to Avoid in Your Marriage

I got angry with my wife for emptying the dishwasher. Normally, that doesn’t happen. In a few seconds, a misguided comment between a husband and wife can explode into a conflict. One or both are in hurry to end the discussion, they’re tired, or their message gets lost in their inability to use the right words. My […]

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How to Keep Chores from Hurting Your Marriage

Sixty-two percent of adults say sharing of household chores is very important to marital success, according to a Pew Research Center poll. But what are husbands and wives to do when they get stuck with chores they don’t like to do? They may carry on for years, silent about their unhappiness or complaining, but doing […]

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Talk about Physical Fitness for a Happier Marriage

My wife and I didn’t talk about physical fitness in our marriage for many years. Like many adults, I added pounds to my waistline as I aged. I’ve since taken those pounds off, but for a few years I was 30 pounds over the recommended weight for my height. My wife never commented on my fat. […]

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Don’t Do This When Your Spouse is Upset

Avoid getting into a habit of trying to cheer up or calm down your spouse when he or she is upset. Your good intentions might lower your odds of having a happy marriage. Let’s turn the tables for a moment. Think about that last time you felt upset and someone tried to cheer you up or […]

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When You Should Use Time-Outs to Save Your Marriage

Pay attention to your body next time you and your spouse get into an argument. What is your physical reaction to marital conflict? In many marriages, verbal conflicts sometimes set off a fight-or-flight or faint-or-freeze response in one or both spouses. These physical reactions are automatic. We don’t consciously choose to activate them. We do need […]

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3 Steps to Repairing Broken Connections in Your Marriage

Many couples fall out of sync. Without warning, life events disrupt the rhythm that helped them stay in harmony. Pride, strong emotions, marital and work-related stress, and different communication styles often make it difficult to reconnect. Meet Ryan and Alyssa, a married couple struggling with connection. Ryan’s success in his job was such an event. He zeroed […]

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How to Disagree with Your Spouse and Win!

Conflict can have damaging effects on a marriage. But the damage is not caused by husbands and wives disagreeing with each other. The damage is caused by how husbands and wives handle their disagreements. At the University of California, Berkeley, researchers Aimee Gordon and Serena Chen collected data in seven different studies of romantically attached couples. […]

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7 Surprising Ingredients to a Happier Marriage

Too many couples look back on their wedding as the happiest day of their life, only to count many of the days that follow as disappointing.  If they haven’t figured it out before their wedding day, most couples eventually discover that sustaining a satisfying marriage requires effort. But, many couples put forth effort without getting […]

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4 Ways Married Couples Can Make Kissing Fun Every Day

According to data gathered by Statistic Brain, the average person spends two weeks of their life kissing. That means some kiss more. Some kiss less. So why do people kiss? Scientists aren’t exactly sure why we kiss. Romantic kissing exists in less than half of the world’s 168 cultures studied by scientists who published their findings […]

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