What Your Christmas Traditions Say about Your Marriage

I had mixed feelings about Christmas. My wife loved the holiday. After we married, bringing our different Christmas pasts together created some challenges. As a young child, I waited impatiently for Christmas morning. In the days before Christmas, boxes wrapped in red and green paper and shiny ribbons appeared under our family Christmas tree. When Mom […]

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4 Research-backed Ways to Make Christmas Merrier

What’s the difference between having a merry Christmas and becoming a Scrooge? It may be how you decide to celebrate the holiday. Researchers have drawn some surprising conclusions about what makes us happier during the holidays. I cringe when I see stores bring out their holiday decorations the day after Halloween. So, I surprised myself when […]

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Christmastime: ‘Tis the Season for Family Drama

My wife and I wished we could skip the drama of the family Christmas party each year. We dreaded the family drama that would accompany the annual Secret Santa gift exchange. Someone on my in-laws’ side of the family started this family tradition. Everyone participated—aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, grandchildren—but I don’t know anyone who would say […]

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How to Choose Christmas Gifts Your Wife will Love

Most husbands put off their Christmas shopping until a few days before Christmas. While two-day shipping makes that easier than ever, Christmas shopping is not something most men look forward to. More than anything else, most struggle with finding the right Christmas gift for their wife.How Husbands Choose GiftsAYTM, a consumer research firm, reports that […]

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The Happiest Couples Know this Communication Secret

Tension easily builds up in marriages where couples fail to effectively communicate their needs to each other. Both spouses become frustrated by unmet needs, or the inability to meet the other’s needs. A wife says to her husband, “I need to feel loved.”  So, the next day he brings her a bouquet of roses. She seems […]

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The Right Way to Apologize to Your Spouse

Not long ago, I publicly humiliated my wife. It wasn’t intentional. The group of people involved was small. Nevertheless, she was still embarrassed by something I said and pulled me aside. I faced an important decision: deny I did anything wrong, defend my actions, or apologize to my wife. I had no idea I’d embarrassed my […]

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Here’s What Happens When You’re Thankful for Your Spouse

I haven’t always cherished my wife like I do now. For many years of our marriage, I’ve taken her for granted. But complacency undermines happiness. Now, as we sit around the table on Thanksgiving Day with family and friends, I like to express gratitude for my wife. It’s not the only time I express gratitude […]

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Can Hallmark Christmas Movies Improve Your Marriage?

I have a new point of view on Hallmark Channel’s annual countdown to Christmas. And there are more on Hallmark Movies and Mysteries. Yes, it has started. Like many married men, I’ve cringed at the idea of watching back-to-back romantic comedies every weekend until Christmas. The movie plot lines are predictable and perpetuate romantic ideals […]

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4 Effective Ways to Connect With a Spouse Who Works Too Much

At least 50 percent of Americans work more than 40 hours a week. Eighteen percent work 60 hours or more. That’s according to a recent Gallup poll. Long hours at work put in day after day can put a strain on a marriage, whether it’s by one or both spouses. If you’re the spouse spending evenings […]

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