Why You Need a Meaningful Life for Lasting Happiness

Why You Need a Meaningful Life for Lasting Happiness3 min read

A meaningful life delivers lasting happiness. On this, most philosophers and religions agree. But the definition of a meaningful life takes on a different flavor, depending on who you listen to.

Defining a Meaningful Life

Here are some of the definitions I came across:

  1. According to Plato the meaning of life is in attaining the highest form of knowledge. Apparently, it can’t be defined, but you’ll know when you get there.

  2. Aristotle concluded that the meaning of life is to pursue the “Highest Good,” which is happiness.

  3. The philosophy of Cynicism argues that the ultimate goal is happiness that comes from being self-sufficient and mastering your attitude.

  4. Epicurus gets a bad rap from more conservative thinkers. He gets credit for the idea that we should eat, drink and be merry, for tomorrow we may die.

  5. The father of Positive Psychology, Martin Seligman in his book Authentic Happiness defines the meaning of life this way:

A meaningful life is one that joins with something larger than we are—and the larger that something is, the more meaning our lives have.

I like that last definition. It gets traction with me.

Jesus on the Meaningful Life

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus reveals what comes across as a strange recipe for happiness.

Happy are those who know they are spiritually poor; the Kingdom of heaven belongs to them!
Happy are those who mourn; God will comfort them!
Happy are those who are humble; they will receive what God has promised!
Happy are those whose greatest desire is to do what God requires; God will satisfy them fully!
Happy are those who are merciful to others; God will be merciful to them!
Happy are the pure in heart; they will see God!
Happy are those who work for peace; God will call them his children!
Happy are those who are persecuted because they do what God requires; the Kingdom of heaven belongs to them!
Happy are you when people insult you and persecute you and tell all kinds of evil lies against you because you are my followers. Be happy and glad, for a great reward is kept for you in heaven. This is how the prophets who lived before you were persecuted (Matthew 5:3-12 GNT).

There are some things here that look good. But how can happiness come out of mourning? Persecution? Insults?

Take the ingredients to one of your favorite food recipes. I like lemon meringue pie. Taste any ingredient by itself, and the experience could be anywhere from sour to sweet. But I only get the lemon meringue experience when all the ingredients are mixed together.

As an Austrian Jew living during the Nazi occupation of Europe, Viktor E. Frankl survived World War II. But his survival came with the temporary loss of freedom in concentration camps, and the loss of his wife, brother and parents.

Frankl wrote much about his experience in the classic Man’s Search for Meaning. The following words are perhaps his most profound:

What is to give light must endure burning.

A life of meaning gives our happiness an immovable foundation.

Finding Lasting Happiness

Weebles were an egg-shaped toy–a figurine–that first appeared in the 1970s. As a boy, I remember the TV commercials with the catchy jingle, “Weebles wobble but they don’t fall down.” The figurines had a weight in the bottom that always turned them back upright when they were pushed over.

That’s resilience.

Lasting happiness isn’t happiness that never goes away. It’s happiness that always comes back. It’s resilient.

Receiving God’s love, and joining together with His purpose gives my life meaning that provides lasting happiness. Whatever comes my way–I can bounce back. I may burn, but I’ll give off light. I may wobble, but I won’t fall down.

I’ll be resilient.

Where do you get your life meaning? What gets you back on your feet when life gets you down? Let me know with a comment below.

Scripture quotations marked (GNT) are from the Good News Translation in Today’s English Version- Second Edition Copyright © 1992 by American Bible Society. Used by Permission.
Photo Credit: Markus Grossalber via Compfight cc
Jon Beaty

I'm a counselor, writer and believer in the power of God to help you thrive in your marriage and family. I live with my family, a small herd of Boer goats, and thousands of honeybees near Portland, Oregon.

  • “I may wobble, but I won’t fall down.” This is such a great line, and I love the Weeble illustration. I’ve heard of Martin Seligman, but have never read any of his works. Would you recommend his book? I certainly like the quote of his that you included.

    • Jon Beaty says:

      Authentic Happiness is a great book. I recommend it (but I’m still working on finishing it). Flourish is another great book, and more recent by Dr. Seligman. I know you’re into this stuff–so I’ll also recommend The Happiness Advantage, by Shawn Achor.

  • Kirby Ingles says:

    I found this pretty interesting and gave me a few ideas for some further discussion this week with my peers. I’m reading David Entwistle’s, Integrative Approaches to Psychology and Christianity. In one of the sections he talks about how C.S. Lewis, Plato, and Aristotle thought modernism imposed on contemporary education by removing the development of character through the attainment of knowledge. Aristotle, believed that education was the central part of shaping character. We should search for the meaning of life and we will be developed into the process but we should also be in awe of the worlds beauty and complexity. However today contemporaries see education only as an instrument of value not as character formation.

    • Jon Beaty says:

      Kirby, Thanks for your comment! I agree, there is a lack of emphasis on character formation in education. Since Martin Seligman PhD, and others, are seeing a scientific link between developing character strengths and lasting happiness and well-being, there’s an opportunity for educators to make a new case for reinforcing development of positive character strengths in children.

  • >